Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor · NCC
For many, life feels like never being enough, or never being allowed to rest. I treat the root, not just the symptoms, because there is a real difference between surviving and actually thriving.
"Relationship is where we heal and where we wound. Let me be a source of strength for you."
— Brandon Cordon, LPCC NCC
My approach
I take a unique approach that resolves the root first, but addresses the symptoms. Most forms of therapy change behavior first. Neurologically, we can actually resolve and heal the underlying reasons for those behaviors, eliminating the need to merely cope altogether.
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Resolve the root
Sitting with me should feel less like being told how to change, and more like effortlessly changing, because of specific experiences in our relationship. The root comes first.
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Neuroplasticity-focused
The brain has plasticity. I don't just uncover the root. I provide the nutrients that change, grow, and empower you, drawing on the latest neurological and clinical research.
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Authentically relational
I bring myself into the room. The therapeutic relationship becomes the place where new ways of connecting and soothing are experientially learned, not just discussed.
Therapy modalities
Services
Relationships, Couples & Family
For couples stuck in the same cycles and individuals carrying relational wounds. We work on truly feeling heard and seen, and learning to offer that to the people closest to you.
Codependency
A core specialty. Moving beyond people-pleasing and enmeshment toward a grounded sense of self, so you can connect deeply without losing yourself in the process.
Trauma & PTSD
Your response to what happened was not the problem. It was a sane response to something that should not have happened. What trauma does is lodge that response in the body and nervous system, so that reminders pull you back into it, and fight, flight, freeze, or fold make decisions for your present that belong to your past. It is like trying to download a large file without the full bandwidth. Most trauma therapy targets the memory only. I work on healing the reasons why the bandwidth caused it to get stuck in the first place, alongside the memory itself. We build the character structure and emotional capacity that stops the amygdala from cutting off your ability to think clearly when triggered. Two people can live through the same event and only one develops PTSD. That difference matters. When that foundation heals, the bandwidth grows, the nervous system stops getting stuck in overwhelm, the past is no longer a present emergency, and you get to be present in your own life again without the past ambushing you. Not just managed. Actually free, and more connected to yourself than ever before.
Anxiety & Depression
Moving from exhaustion and shame toward genuine capacity for calm, meaning, and presence, in everyday life and in relationships.
Teen & Preteen Therapy
Adolescents need a therapist who meets them where they are. I work with teens, preteens, and families to build healthier foundations during critical developmental years.
Also: Addiction, Grief, Life Transitions & More
Including dual diagnosis, personality disorders, OCD, mood disorders, anger management, infidelity, divorce, parenting, and substance use.
All sessions conducted via Google Meet, HIPAA compliant and fully secure, from the comfort of your own environment. Available to clients throughout California.
How I work with families
The conviction underneath all of this is core to humanity since the beginning. Human beings are wired for love, for genuine connection, for the kind of safety that allows them to become who they were actually meant to be. Whether you arrive at that through neuroscience, attachment theory, or faith, the destination is the same.
In a healthy family, children need from their parents. Parents need nothing from their children. That single sentence is the foundation of everything I do in family therapy, and it shapes every session from the first one.
Think of parents as the soil in which children grow. The emotional richness or poverty of that soil is not just a factor in how children develop, it is the primary one. What the research in neuroscience and attachment theory consistently shows us is this: a child's capacity to thrive, to feel safe, to build identity, to regulate emotion, is built on the emotional dependability of the parents around them. When that soil is depleted, children don't fail to grow. They learn to survive instead.
But here is the equally important truth: parents were once children too. They are also products of the soil they grew in. Most of what gets passed down was never intended as harm, it was simply the only love that was modeled. That story deserves its own space, and that work, with another therapist or on its own terms, whether it happens before, during, or after family therapy, is part of what makes lasting change possible for everyone in the room.
My approach to family therapy is built entirely on this model. I hold the family system as my client, not just the individuals within it. Each person in the room matters and will be heard, but the direction of emotional responsibility is not up for negotiation: it flows from parent to child, not the other way around. This is not a judgment, it is a biological and relational reality, and it is the frame from which we work.
For parents
Parents have feelings, needs, and wounds that are real and deserve to be witnessed. That is not set aside in this work, it is built into it. While you share, you will be attuned to by the people in that room, because being heard and seen while vulnerable is how all of us, regardless of age or role, begin to internalize that we genuinely matter.
These moments will also expose wounds you carry, things from your own story that surface unexpectedly. That is not a problem, it is actually the work. What matters is that when those wounds appear, they are recognized as something that needs its own space, in individual therapy alongside what we are doing here, rather than something resolved at the expense of the family session.
What this work asks of you is not perfection. It asks the willingness to be seen as imperfect, and to trust that love and grace are large enough to hold that. If you grew up believing that imperfection meant failure, that falling short meant you were not enough, that belief is part of the soil we are working with together. Allowing your children to witness your willingness to stay in the room, to set aside the need to be right in favor of the need to connect, builds something no amount of correct behavior ever could: genuine trust, respect, and intimacy. The framework that makes being heard possible for you is the same one that makes it possible for your child. That is not a limitation on you. It is the whole point.
For children & teens
Many children and teens arrive in family therapy having already learned, often without words, that their job is to keep the peace, regulate a parent's distress, or absorb blame for what is actually a system-wide wound. That changes here. You will be heard first. Your emotional reality will be witnessed without defense or redirection. And you will also be taught, in a safe and structured way, how to genuinely connect with the people you love, from a place of wholeness rather than survival.
One of the most important things family therapy reveals is where individual healing is still needed. A branch cannot produce what it has not received. Real growth in a family system depends on individual wholeness, and when a parent's own unresolved wounds are being lived out in the family room, the system can only go so far together. I will name that clearly and with care, and I may refer family members to individual therapy alongside our work. This is not a failure of the family process. It is the process working exactly as it should, each person reconnecting to their own source of health so they have something real to bring to the people they love.
The frame
Every session operates within a clear and consistent structure. This frame is not arbitrary, it is the therapeutic intervention itself. It creates safety, teaches attunement as a lived experience, and makes visible what has kept connection out of reach.
One person speaks at a time. Whoever shares first is allowed to do so without interruption, defense, or redirection. The rest of the family listens, not just to the words, but to the emotional tone underneath them. Not to fix, advise, correct, compare, or explain away, but simply to be present. This is what attunement actually looks like in practice, and we practice it as an act of love and a skill we build together.
Every member practices attunement in both directions. Children will also practice listening when parents share. The goal is not to recreate the old dynamic where the child regulates the parent's distress, it is to practice genuine connection in a safe, structured environment where I am present to hold the frame and ensure it remains healthy.
The frame is held without apology, and we commit to it together. This requires letting down our guard and ego as best we can. How easy or hard that is will depend in part on the soil we each grew in, and that is met with understanding, not judgment. If someone is unable to stay within the frame due to emotional reactivity, they may be asked to step out temporarily. This is a healthy boundary, a protection for whoever is sharing and for the dynamic itself, and it is one of the most honest mirrors a reactive family member can receive. Because losing the frame would be playing the same pattern that brought you here. Keeping it is the first proof that something different is possible.
The goal is intimacy, as the healthy path through conflict, not about who is right or wrong. We are not here to prove facts or win arguments. We are building the conditions where emotional honesty becomes safe enough to be the norm, and where the responses to it build connection rather than damage it. This is possible because safety allows the brain to step out of fight, flight, freeze, and fold, and into genuine presence. When a person knows they are heard, seen, and valued outside of their performance, truth becomes something that can actually land. Clarity follows safety. What this requires of each person in the room is an act of love: setting aside the ego, the need to fix, judge, advise, or solve, and simply choosing to be with someone without an agenda.
This framework applies regardless of what brings a family through the door. For families where addiction is part of the story, there is something specific worth naming.
A note on families navigating addiction
In many families where addiction is present, the person struggling with substance use has already been carrying the identity of "the problem" long before the addiction began. The addiction creates real consequences that affect everyone, and that is not minimized here. But there is a meaningful difference between a person whose behaviors are a problem, and a person who has internalized that they themselves are the problem. Both things can be true at once, and most of the time, they are.
Families affected by addiction often form tightly around the narrative that one member is the source of all dysfunction. Sometimes the addicted person protects that narrative themselves, fiercely and sincerely, because the family was genuinely loving by the only measure of love they ever knew. And that is where something important needs to be named: in many families, love and performance became the same thing. Love was present in accomplishment, in compliance, in not causing problems. It was never labeled as conditional, it simply functioned that way, which makes it nearly impossible to question without feeling like you are questioning whether you were loved at all.
When an addicted person defends the family against any honest examination, it is rarely denial in the simple sense. It is often something closer to survival. If the only soil that tree ever knew is called into question, the fear underneath is not just about the family, it is about whether they themselves are still loveable in their failure, still acceptable in their contradiction. The defense of the family is often an externalized attempt to manage that internal wound, a fear that feels like fact because it has never had a witness willing to hold both things at once: this family loved you, and the soil still had limits. Both are true. Neither cancels the other.
My frame in these sessions is the same: the family system is my client. The goal is not to assign blame, but to bring honest light to what was already present before the addiction took hold, and to build something healthier for everyone in the room.
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Fees & payment
About Brandon
Credentials
LPCC — Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, CA
NCC — Nationally Certified Counselor #1546084
Graduate education
MA Counseling Psychology
Townsend Institute, Concordia University Irvine (CACREP) · 2019
Undergraduate
BS Biblical & Theological Studies
Mid-Atlantic Christian University · 2002
Years in practice
7 years · Psychology Today Verified
Clinical influences
For many, life is one of two things: either you feel like you are never enough, so why try, or you feel like you have to always keep pushing, never able to relax. If you identify with the first, you've tried everything to pull yourself out and people are quick to tell you how. So you put on a smile to hide it. If the second, you pride yourself on how much you accomplish, but feel less than when you slow down.
Maybe you are struggling in a relationship, ready to learn not only how to set healthier boundaries, but also how to draw closer through empathetic attunement.
"You do not have to do this alone. Are you looking for someone to really see, hear, and get it? Someone to help you not just feel understood, but also empower you to actually change?"
I am highly relational and bring myself authentically into the therapeutic environment. I use an eclectic, integrative set of research-based modalities, what I call a "Psychodynamalytic" approach, that resolves the root first while addressing the symptoms. I provide the nutrients that change, grow, and empower you. The goal is not merely surviving life, but genuinely thriving in it.
I hold an LPCC in California, graduated from a CACREP university, and hold a BS in Biblical and Theological Studies.
Contact
You don't have to have the right words. Reach out by phone or email and I will be in touch within one business day to schedule your free 15-minute consultation.
All communication is kept strictly confidential. Reaching out does not create a therapeutic relationship. For urgent mental health needs, please contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline or your nearest emergency room.